If you’ve been a leader of a ministry in any capacity for more than seven seconds, you know how frustrating, awful, and terrifying a silent small group discussion can be. After all, if there is no talking, it’s not really a discussion, is it? Sharing with and hearing from others creates intimacy, so effective ministry leaders need to navigate out of stiff group atmospheres. Here are some ideas I found helpful in my small groups
“College kids, twenty-somethings, even high schoolers- they’re so flaky.”
I’ve heard this so many times. Especially from church leaders. I even believed it. For, like, a day.
But then I realized I show up for things. And my same-aged friends show up for things. Consistently. Actually, we are pretty good at it.
So why do so many churches have such trouble getting millenials through their doors? Well, there are several reasons, but here is the biggest one I’ve found to be true:
We feel like we’ve been lied to when we’ve been lied to.
So we tend not to believe lies. Why would we want to show up to something we think is being lied about? Let me give you some examples: Continue reading